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To end men’s violence against women we must stand up, speak out and act. Silence and inaction will let this violence continue. Here are some tips on how to stop domestic violence and abuse.
Tips for speaking out
Sometimes you may see your friends behaving abusively, for example sexually harassing a woman in the street or telling sexist jokes. If is happens, you can:
Distract your friends by saying something like ‘relax, that’s enough’.
Don’t laugh – silence cuts.
Tell your friends to stop.
Walk away to show that you do not approve of their behaviour.
Sometimes it is hard to know what to say when someone makes an inappropriate statement about women or behaves inappropriately towards a woman. Try one of the following tactics to respond:
If you are with friends and someone says something that makes you uncomfortable or that you feel is wrong, you can say: “I’m not sure what you mean. What did you say?”
Sometimes people forget they are talking about a real person. To remind them and change the conversation, you can say: “What if this was your sister/daughter/son?”
Give your opinion to show your disapproval: “I believe abusing a woman is wrong.”
If you are with a group of people, you’re probably not the only one feeling uncomfortable. Let others know they are not alone and encourage them to speak up by asking: “Am I the only one uncomfortable with this?”
Safely intervene when you see violence happening
If you witness violence, focus on what you can do. Always keep yourself and others safe.
Call 000 in an emergency. You can also:
call the police
be a witness — stand somewhere close but safe so the violent person knows they are being watched
ask for help from people near you.
If you see violence and abuse, and you feel safe, talk about the behaviour you have seen: “You are my friend but I think the way you criticise and intimidate her is wrong.
Myths and reality:
MYTH: Women should just leave
abusive relationships
REALITY: It’s not that easy. Women stay in abusive
relationships for many reasons:
• Fear the violence will get worse if they leave, they
will be followed and harmed
• Intimidation and control by male partner
• Believing violence is normal
• Financial dependence
• Social embarrassment
• Lack of self-confidence
• Isolation
• Cultural background
• Religious and moral values
• Concern for children
• Family pressure
• Lack of community support
What you can say:
There are many reasons why a woman can’t just
leave. Her choices can be limited in ways that we can’t
always understand.
MYTH: Some women provoke
violence and deserve it
REALITY: No one has permission to hurt a woman.
The man using violence is responsible for the violence.
He has no right to use violence regardless of how
angry he may be. There are many non-violent ways to
resolve an argument.
What you can say:
No woman deserves to be abused. Men who use
violence are the only ones responsible for their actions.
They have made a decision to use violence.
MYTH: Men’s violence against women
is caused by men using drugs and
alcohol
REALITY: Alcohol and drugs are a contributing factor
to men’s violence against women, but alcohol and
drugs do not cause the violence.
This myth is sometimes used to excuse men’s
violence. Men’s violence against women is caused
by the attitudes and behaviours associated with
traditional masculine gender roles. They put women in
a subordinate position to men.
What you can say:
Drugs and alcohol can contribute to violence, but
they do not cause it. It is the attitudes and behaviours
of these men that cause this violence.
MYTH: Family violence is a
private matter
REALITY: Family violence is not a private matter. It is a
criminal offence in Australia. Family violence impacts
everyone in the community. It impacts on a woman’s
ability to lead a productive life and also affects children
and families.
What you can say:
Domestic violence is not a private matter. It impacts
on women, families and the community. We all have
a role to play to stop this violence. We will all benefit
from ending men’s violence against women.
Remember: blaming women for the violence
of men is victim blaming.
MYTH: Violence doesn’t impact on
children. They don’t remember it and
are too young to understand what is
going on
REALITY: Children can be physically and emotionally
harmed by violence at any age. It impacts on children’s
self-esteem, confidence, education and their future
relationships. Children may learn violent behaviours
and continue them as an adult. Or they may think
violence is normal and continue to experience it as
adults. With the right help and support, children
can recover.
What you can say:
Seeing violence or being a victim of it can do
serious damage to a child. It can have a lasting
negative impact on them.
MYTH: Only certain types of men
are violent
REALITY: Men who use violence come from all social,
economic, and cultural backgrounds and family
situations.
Men’s violence against women occurs across Australia
and across all cultural and ethnic backgrounds,
religious beliefs, educational levels, occupations,
socio-economic statuses and sexual orientations.
What you can say:
This isn’t about where you live, your job or your
religion – men from all backgrounds use violence
against women.
MYTH: Violence only affects a small
number of Australian women
REALITY: Statistics show that in Australia, 1 in 3
women experiences physical or sexual violence in their
lifetimei
. Domestic and family violence is the principle
cause of homelessness for women and their childrenii
.
1 in 4 children are exposed to domestic violence.iii
What you can say:
Think of 3 women you know. Statistics show
that 1 in 3 women will experience physical or sexual violence in their lifetime.
MYTH: Men’s violence against women
is caused by men using drugs and
alcohol
REALITY: Alcohol and drugs are a contributing factor
to men’s violence against women, but alcohol and
drugs do not cause the violence.
This myth is sometimes used to excuse men’s
violence. Men’s violence against women is caused
by the attitudes and behaviours associated with
traditional masculine gender roles. They put women in
a subordinate position to men.
What you can say:
Drugs and alcohol can contribute to violence, but
they do not cause it. It is the attitudes and behaviours
of these men that cause this violence.
MYTH: Family violence is a
private matter
REALITY: Family violence is not a private matter. It is a
criminal offence in Australia. Family violence impacts
everyone in the community. It impacts on a woman’s
ability to lead a productive life and also affects children
and families.
What you can say:
Domestic violence is not a private matter. It impacts
on women, families and the community. We all have
a role to play to stop this violence. We will all benefit
from ending men’s violence against women.
MYTH: There is nothing we can do to
stop violence against women
REALITY: Some people think rape and domestic
violence is a normal part of society or that men are
‘born that way’ and cannot control themselves or
change. This is not true and is a negative perspective
on men that is harmful to both men and women.
Violence against women is caused by gender
inequality that puts women in a subordinate position
to men, creating social conditions where men’s
violence against women is tolerated and even
accepted as normal.
What you can say:
No one is born violent. Violence is something that
some men learn. With the right support, men can change
their attitudes and behaviours to stop this violence.
MYTH: Men who use violence are
mentally ill
REALITY: There is no evidence to support thisiv
. Men
with no signs of mental health issues can be violent.
The majority of people living with mental health issues
have respectful relationships and do not use violence.
What you can say:
Men who use violence against women come from all
backgrounds and do not necessarily have a mental health
issue. There is no excuse for violence and abuse
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